My First ‘Toxic Free’ Mothers Day Musing

Today I’m not going to write about the toxins in our home in the literal sense. My business name is Domestic Detox and I included the ‘and other musings’ to my blog so I could have the freedom to discuss a few other things that come up in family life. So today’s the day that I get to let my creative writing side pop out. 🙂

It’s Mothers Day here in Australia and I have had a wonderful day so far. I received a beautiful 2 course late breakfast in bed. Grain free banana pancakes with maple syrup and then poached eggs on hash brown with bacon and mushrooms cooked in coconut oil and butter with home made hollandaise sauce. Very special.

With all that goes into being a mother these days, do we take on too much? It can be the most challenging thing we women do. Not to say that dads get a cakewalk, but today is Mothers Day, so let’s stay on track here!

So do we take on more than our fair share? Are men more able to say no to extra tasks? Lately I have been thinking its very important to be honest with other people about what I feel I can tackle, without being run off my feet. I am learning to prioritise and have begun to really value my time. I’m wondering if women who have trouble valuing themselves, also don’t value their time and therefore agree to everything that’s requested of them, presenting a facade of I can do it all. Then we become those super busy women who have their hand in every pot except their own. Interesting. How far can they go? How long until they crack? Who suffers? As the mother, if they do not say ‘no’ to ‘too much on their plate’ do their children and family always come last? Even though super mum makes it to every class recital, every dance lesson, every soccer game, meets every work commitment, cooks, cleans and is there for her friends. Is she really present? I think when I have been busy supermum, perhaps I wasn’t really present because really, I checked out a lot. I wasn’t listening to anyone, because I was too darn busy focusing on every darn thing! So when I thought I was busy and meeting everyone’s needs and keeping up with it all, really, you could have told me the sky was caving in and I would’ve said ‘well that’s typical, nevermind things will pick up’ which is probably not very helpful and code for I don’t have time for this.

This will be something I take note to focus on with all the new commitments I do have and I’m glad I’ve caught on now. I want to be present because I know how it feels when others aren’t with me. I don’t know how good I will be at it initially, I have always struggled with time management. However, it’s something that will evolve over time if I keep it in the forefront of my mind. I’m also a terrible procrastinator, but that’s another topic! Lol.

Leaving it at that, my first online ponder and observation of my own human nature. What’s your advice? Do you do supermum really well and meaningfully, or if you really stop and think about it are you missing a few things? Perhaps you don’t know? It’s worth exploring. 🙂